Helpful Books & Publications

Couples / Marriage

• Books related to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (my model)
  • Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships – Sue Johnson
  • Hold Me Tight – Sue Johnson
  • Created For Connection: The “Hold Me Tight” Guide for Christian Couples – Sue Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer
  • Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for Dummies – Brent Bradley and James Furrow
  • An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us – Veronica Kallos-Lilly and Jennifer Fitzgerald
• Other books that I’ve found helpful for couples
  • How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage (Christian) – Milan and Kay Yerkovich
  • After The Affair – Janis Abrahms Spring and Michael Spring
  • The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps – Melissa Orlov

Managing Emotion and Self Esteem

• Living Like You Mean It – Ronald Frederick
• It’s Not Always Depression – Hilary Jacobs Hendel
• The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem – Nathaniel Branden
• The Happiness Trap – Russ Harris
• Anxiety, Phobias, and Panic – Reneau Peurifoy
• Stress Free for Good – Fred Luskin and Kenneth Pelletier
• The How of Happiness – Sonja Lyubomirsky
• Overcoming Depression One Step at a Time – Michael Addis and Christopher Martell
• Overcoming Depression – Paul Gilbert
• The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life – Mark Manson (This book is not for those who are uncomfortable with profanity. If you can get past that, Mark makes some good points in an original way).
• Emotion and Physical Pain
  • Unlearn Your Pain – Howard Schubiner MD and Michael Betzold
  • When the Body Says No – Gabor Maté
• Personality:
  • Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life is Your Hidden Strength – Laurie Helgoe
  • Please Understand Me – David Keirsey and Marilyn Bates

Shame and Perfectionism

• The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are – Brene Brown
• Living Like You Mean It – Ronald Frederick
• It’s Not Always Depression – Hilary Jacobs Hendel
• Shame & Guilt: Masters of Disguise – Jane Middelton-Moz
• Letting Go of Shame: Understanding How Shame Affects Your Life – Potter-Efron
• Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control – Allan E. Mallinger and Jeannette Dewyze.
• Tools for assessing and developing self-compassion (an antidote to both)

Eating, Weight, and Body Image Issues

• How to Have your Cake and your Skinny Jeans Too – Josie Spinardi (Excellent guide on intuitive eating if you ignore the emphasis on “skinny”)
• The Obesity Code – Unlocking the Secrets of Weight Loss – Jason Fung
• Overcoming Overeating – Jane R. Hirschmann & Carol H. Munter
• Embrace Documentary on Women’s Body Image

Relationship Issues (General)

• Boundaries (Christian) – Henry Cloud
• Codependent No More – Melody Beattie
• Escaping Toxic Guilt – Susan Carrell
• Emotional Blackmail – Susan Forward
• The Betrayal Bond – Patrick Carnes

Trauma

• Waking the Tiger – Peter Levine
• I Can’t Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors – Aphrodite Matsakis
• The Betrayal Bond – Patrick Carnes (help for relational trauma and abuse)
• EMDR: The Breakthrough “Eye Movement” Therapy for Overcoming Anxiety, Stress, and Trauma – Francine Shapiro

Mindfulness and meditation

• UCSD Free Mindfulness Audios and Videos
• UCLA Free Mindful Awareness Audios
• Free app on iTunes: Create Inner Peace: Self-Hypnosis Relaxation by Glenn Harrold
• Free app on iTunes: Relax and Sleep Well by Glenn Harrold
• Spire Stress Management Device (Bio-Feedback Using the Breath)
• Inner Balance Device (Bio-Feedback using Heart-Rate Variability)
• Meditation Oasis Podcast – Free podcast about meditation and other interesting material
• Mindfulness for Beginners – Jon Kabat-Zinn, Audio CD
• 0– Jon Kabat-Zinn, Audio CD
• Inner Balance BioFeedback Sensor/App
• Mindful Stretching / Exercise to reduce anxiety and stress:
  • Yoga for Your Week – Rodney Yee (DVD)
  • A.M. and P.M. Yoga For Beginners – Rodney Yee (DVD)
  • Ultimate Yogi (Advanced Yoga) – Travis Eliot (DVD Set)
  • Yoga Journal’s Beginning Yoga Step by Step
  • Somatics: Reawakening The Mind’s Control of Movement, Flexibility, and Health– Thomas Hanna

Parenting Books & Services

• Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids – Laura Markham
• The Explosive Child A new approach for understanding and parenting easily frustrated children – Ross Greene, PhD
• Love and Logic – Book Series by Foster Cline and Jim Fay
  • www.loveandlogic.com for additional information
• 1-2-3 Magic (2-12 year olds) – Thomas Phelan
• Parenting From the Inside Out – Daniel Siegel
• No-Drama Discipline – Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson

• Services
  • Parent Connection of SLO County – Resources, support and classes for parents
  • Parents Helping Parents – Family resource center for parents with special needs.

Addiction Books & Services

• Addict In The Family – Beverly Conyers
• Everything Changes: Help for Families of Newly Recovering Addicts – Beverly Conyers
• It Will Never Happen To Me – Claudia Black (for children of alcoholics)
• Sober Siblings: How to Help Your Alcoholic Brother or Sister-and Not Lose Yourself – Patricia Olsen, Petros Levounis M.D.
• Willpower Is Not Enough – Arnold Washton
• Boundaries (Christian) – Henry Cloud
• Codependent No More – Melody Beattie

• Services
  • North County Connection, 805-462-8600; AA, NA, Sex Addicts and other groups services
  • Celebrate Recovery, Bible based 12-step program at Atascadero Bible Church

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